I’ve been searching for a writing group for a long time. I’ve tried three, and I think I’m a snob about it. One was at a local bookstore where most people were writing poetry and short stories. That’s great, but I didn’t feel like reading aloud in the middle of the bookstore. I don’t mind a group hearing, but I’m not ready to put on a show for the crowd.The next group met at a coffee shop. The members were very diverse in age and education and I was excited that there would be a broad range of opinions. Then the group leader read from the memoir she was working on. The writing was so terrible I sat back and waited for the constructive criticism. The entire group praised her and made no mention of flaws. I know some people have a hard time hearing criticism, but how does unwarranted praise help anyone? I knew I wouldn’t get honest reactions from that group.
The third group that I’m still trying seems to be a better fit and I need to give it more time. The group members are actually producing writing, not just talking about it. They gave informed comments. The problem is they meet during the work day and I would have to use vacation time to attend. Do I really need the group? One on hand, writing is a very solitary activity and for many people a writing group is an important social outlet. I see it that way for me too. I’m looking for my “pack” of like-minded people. On the other hand, I think too many comments during the early phases of a story can alter your thinking too much. I’m not one to hide my ideas, but sometimes additional comments can lead to lack of focus. I’m easily influenced by good ideas.
You can’t please everyone, so shouldn’t you first try to write something that you would want to read. I remember Anne Lamott said you should write as if your parents do not exist. Parents are a major influence, but I think that comment is ture about all outside influences. I’d much rather create something that I am proud of and have it sit in a drawer than have success with something I find shameful.
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